Watching shows such as “Love and Hip Hop” and “Empire” really have me thinking about how deceitful people can be. Not to mention the disloyal people around me in my real life. When the argument about cheating versus loyalty comes up I see no justification for cheaters. I have heard so many different excuses from various people and I still feel like if someone can not be monogamous they should remain single. I understand “We are young,” but that does not mean you lie and play with someone’s emotions.
People cheat for many reasons whether it be the thrill, unhappiness, revenge or insecurities. Most people I have heard talk about cheating will say they are cheating, because they think they are being cheated on which is really ridiculous and obnoxious reasoning. Two wrongs do not make a right! My response to all these people trying to justify their actions will always be the same… JUST LEAVE. If you feel the need to step out on your significant other at any point you do not need to be in a relationship.
On the other hand… shout out to all those people that are loyal! Loyalty always wins. Even if you are in actuality being cheated on and you find out, at least you were being faithful. I know that no one wants to hear that, but karma will always come back in full effect to people who are being deceitful. Both people cheating creates nothing but a messy heartbreaking situation that no one deserves to be in.
I used to be the kind of person that wanted to have their cake and eat it too. I would rather be dating different people than settle down. A lot of people wanted to make it official, but I applaud myself for knowing my preference and not trying to get involved in a commitment I wasn’t ready for. Now years later I have matured and I see the value of having one person and being in love with them unconditionally.
I do not judge the people who want to have fun and have no strings attached. That is your preference and the whole point of life is to do what makes you happy. However, the people cheating and putting in all this effort to cover up there unfaithfulness is pathetic to me.
Cheating takes a lot of energy. You have to watch and monitor your phone at all times, lie and tell follow up lies, and divide your time between multiple people. Like who has time for that when we are working or going to school and trying to establish ourselves? I see it as a phase for most people. However, I know that their are middle aged people still sneaking around and cheating on their significant others. At the end of the day there’s a level of maturity that someone needs to possess in order to have a successful relationship that lasts. If you don’t possess that maturity, do yourself and others a favor and avoid it all together. Like they say, cheaters never prosper.