I hate that this has to be my first post of the new year, but it is what it is. Last night at around 8 p.m. I went to the gas station near my house. I had like a quarter tank, but I decided to be proactive and fill up so I didn’t have to worry about it. As I’m leaving the gas station, a young black dude approaches my car. I have been robbed before as you guys know, so I am naturally paranoid. So the dude is trying to get at me and I’m like “no sorry” as I get into my car. As I am starting the car, he is literally standing near my drivers seat window saying his phone number.
At this point I feel uncomfortable and I just wanted to drive away, but feared I would run over his foot or something. Once the guy realizes that I am not going to take his number down, he starts to walk away. However, before he goes back to his friends car (yes he was a scrub sitting in the passenger side of his best friend’s ride) he kicks the front of my car and gives me the most evil look I have ever seen. He looked so upset that I smashed off as fast as I could! So many thoughts entered my head… what if they follow me home? What if they try to rob me? What if they try to rape me?
When I got home I couldn’t stop thinking about it. The fact that guys feel so entitled to us as women… it made me sick. I told him no and he literally wouldn’t back down. Many people said that I should have pretended to put his number in my phone or gave him a fake number. But why should I have to act like I am interested when I am really not? Why can’t I just be honest and be left alone? Apparently it isn’t that simple.
This scenario makes me think of the term thirst. Guys are so thirsty that they will try at any means to attain a number or get a date. One of my girls mentioned another valuable term… consent. Guys need to understand that NO means NO and go on with their day. I use to always pretend I was putting guys numbers in my phones to make them go away from me and think they accomplished their “goal”. However, I am not doing this in 2017. Men need to learn how to take rejection and we as women need to be able to say no and not fear a man’s reaction. This dude kicking my car was childish and uncalled for and I hope that karma gets him in some way.
It baffles me how some men react to rejection. There are millions of women in this world so if someone rejects you who cares? Take the “L” and move on. Especially when its a random woman you don’t even know. Not like you have known someone for two years and you finally got the courage to ask them out, women will be total strangers and guys will act a fool. Why cant you simply say “Okay, have a nice night” as a REAL man would? Why does a tantrum need to be thrown to express dissatisfaction with not obtaining your goal? I am disappointed that some men really cant take rejection and I hope that I never experience anything like that again.
Meanwhile, something else happened today that made me feel sick to my stomach. A popular guy i went to high school with messaged me on Facebook. Mind you, I have had this man on Facebook for years, but I don’t personally know him. I saw a message pop up from him and I was confused. However, I assumed that he was just going to flirt like every other random guy that pops into my private messages. I opened the message and it said “You tryna top me?” For those who don’t know to give “top” is slang for a woman to perform oral sex on a man. I couldn’t BELIEVE this man sent me this. We have literally never had a conversation and for him to feel comfortable enough to send this to me is an issue. I was going to go off, but I decided to not even entertain this disrespect. I mean, what did he think I was going to say that?! The thing that bothers me more is that I know he has probably sent the same message to other women and probably got the desired “Yes daddy” response. However, he hit up the wrong one. I really hope that men start respecting women and women start respecting themselves this year, because it is starting to get out of hand.
I wrote another article about women objectification at csuitemusic.com, check it out!